which is very common that got me thinking
"why don't you do it yourself and then talk about it"
i'd realised i'm guilty of saying that as well but after these words directed me made me realise that some of the comments from those who can't do what i can do yet still make remarks about it are worth reflecting about instead of retort. i hear people who aren't in Church choir, "The choir/cantor cannot sing lah!" Of course the next reaction would be, "You go sing lah."
Most of the "That choir/cantor cannot sing lah!" cannot sing. They really sing off-pitch, some even tone-deaf but they can appreciate the essence of music. They appreciate the demands its essence - perhaps the core of its existence! - thus express in their own way although not technically nor in detail.
not every remark must be taken into consideration. not that i can hold back to "bad" comments. it's really how at peace one is with oneself that the person grows into understanding and maturity and learns that one is able to distinguish what's to be or not to be taken into reflection
