to "lighten up", "open up" and "let in new people" even "let in" new perspectives cos of issues about oneself are needed to be attended to first before the wall can be brought down
but if one gives oneself time to reflect without retort, usually revelation about the good about oneself is revealed and it's up to one to either face it or shun it. To face it is a step for oneself. To give heaps of excuses to shun it - well, see the above
seems like a never ending cycle then. sounds cliche but why not end this vicious endless cycle by facing it
